Defeating the ‘Carrie Bradshaw’ Factor!

I’ve been based in NYC a while now and I think a lot about the ‘Carrie Bradshaw Factor’.

There is an increasing trend of individuals in the 23-34 age group (women especially), that are flocking to the city in hopes of the fantasy life of posh evenings out, gorgeous men and unique job opportunities.  Instead, they are finding themselves broke, single and feeling ‘stuck in the city’. I also had fallen into that trap and found myself unhappy, frustrated and overweight.  Given such, it’s important to find ways you can incorporate the city life you’re craving, without having to settle, feel added pressure or let down.  Follow these fast and simple tips to amplify your city chic experience!

Date a human, not a fantasy!

Let go of some of the high standards set for the perfect partner.  It’s a lot of pressure to put on the other person on a first date! This is the time to relax and have fun. Be open to the possibilities and remember that often times you don’t always know what’s best for you. You might be surprised and find more than what you thought you were looking for!  Or at best, make a great new friend.

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No one talks about all those late night liquid calories!

The more fun and colorful a cocktail, the more chance of racking up the pounds. Limit yourself to just one of these drinks when out on the town. Sip slowly and actually savor it. Switch to a cleaner drink, such as vodka club and alternate water in between cocktails. Also, remember why you are out! Develop a relationship with the friends you are with and potentially meeting new people, not a love affair with a daiquiri.

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Become a confident, fearless go getter!

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking people are watching your every move. Realize that what others think of you is none of your business. Follow your gut instinct and see it through. You have to live with your decisions and it allows you to develop a better relationship with yourself. You come across as more poised and self-reliant, which will attract more positive experiences and people into your world.

Have a tip for easily being fabulous in the city? I’d love to know! Share with a  comment below!

How to Stand Out in your New City!

It’s time for another episode of New You City Chat!  This week, I discuss the challenges you may encounter when relocating and what you can do to off set them.

Remember that the key to all of this is to be YOU.  Radiant your true self and the right people and places will come into your world naturally.  Feel really proud of what you’ve accomplished and how courageous you are to make such a big transition!

Have a moving tip or advice on how to make the most of a new city? Let me know and leave a comment!

Why now is NOT the best time to book your next guilt trip!

This week the concept of guilt has been on my mind.  It’s so interesting the tangled web we weave from a situation where guilt has affected us in some way.  It drives us mad; with its projections of self-doubt, regret, shame, and disappointment just to name a few.

Does this ever happen to you?  Do you find yourself going crazy reliving a situation in your head, hoping it had gone differently?  Do you feel like you ruined your reputation from a mistake you’ve made?

I know how easy it is to get caught in this trap and that’s why this week’s episode of “New You City Chat” is an expose on guilt!  I discuss what guilt is, how it affects us, and what you can do about it going forward.

 

Remember that guilt is just an aspect of our lives, not a reflection of it.  Things happen, however with a sense of forgiveness and selflessness, we can move ahead.

When was the last time you were guilt stricken?  Leave me a comment below and let me know what you did to overcome it.  I can’t wait to see your insight!

Breaking the Vicious Cycle of Judgments!

It’s time to unleash the second video of my Q&A series!  This one focuses on how to prevent our own judgments from interfering with our everyday lives.  It’s so easy to want to compare ourselves to others, in fact our ego encourages it!  So how do you stop this flow of negativity from coming into your daily routine?  Watch the video for my insight as to how!

Remember that we can’t control other people’s thoughts, however you author your own story!  Yes, this does take a lot of awareness, practice and patience!  Know that you can create a change, so keep at it!  You’ll be closer along your path to letting your true, beautiful, hot self shine through!

Be sure to also tune into my next radio show, Tuesday, August 20th at 8p.m. EST! We’ll discuss how visualization and affirmations can help you achieve your DREAM city life! Is your life not panning out the way you’d thought? Are you ready to attract more love, money or even a hotter body? Learn the ways to manifest positivity and results through simple thoughts and techniques. You’ll start to see how to make the city work with you as oppose to against you, even faster than you can catch the subway!

Have a question you’d like answered on the show? Let us know! Email the specifics at danielle@daniellemercurio.com or post your comment below.

Set a reminder and follow the link below during show time!
New You City Radio Chat – How to Manifest Your DREAM Life!

Until next time, keep dreaming & stay open to the possibilities! -Danielle

Is it possible to NOT worry about what other people think without looking selfish?

My most recent radio show embraced the topic ‘What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business’. Clearly, there is much to discuss when it comes to wondering about what other opinions are going on about you!

We tend to bring our focus so heavily on what other people think of us, that it’s driving us away from our own wants, desires and establishing our true purpose in life. We start to worry about pleasing them as oppose to ourselves!

Have you ever felt at times like all eyes are on you? Like everyone is just waiting for you to fail or disappoint?

What happens is that this creates a unique sense of fear and our mind in turn starts to play tricks on us. Instead of thinking about what we WANT to do, we concentrate on what we SHOULD do. And we’re “shoulding” ourselves all over the place!

Follow this link to my radio recording and learn more about how to STOP the opinions from consuming your mind, as well as discover the personal blocks you may be holding onto that are fueling the beliefs that other people are judging you!

New You City Radio Chat – What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!

Before the show, I had invited listeners to write in their personal questions to be answered on air. Unfortunately, we just couldn’t get to it all in one hour! So to make sure no one was left unanswered, I’m answering your questions via video response! I’m releasing three videos that contain my insight per your requests! Here’s my first titled, “Am I just being selfish? Truth vs True.”

After you watch the video, let me know what you do to stay connected to your Truth via the comments below!

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Practice BEFORE You Preach! How to Bounce Back After a Setback.

With my radio show on the Life Coach Radio Network now in full swing every 1st and 3rd Tuesday evening of the month (insert non-shameless plug), I was feeling on top of my game.  The buzz surrounding my coaching business was growing and I was ecstatic.  I felt like nothing could bring me down.

Backtrack to last Tuesday evening, when it was time to start my live taping of the next radio show.  It went great; I was feeling confident, having fun and really feeling like I was getting the hang of it.  Sure, no one was calling in and the chat room seemed desolate, but I wasn’t going to let that get to my head.  I wrapped up at the end of the hour and went to shut down the online recording studio.  That’s when I saw the mute button in all its bright red glory and the color drained from my face.

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This couldn’t be happening, I thought.  Not ME.  I reached out to some of my listeners that confirmed what I already knew to be true.  The whole hour was one long dead silence.  I was disappointed, embarrassed and heartbroken.  I had put so much time and energy into the show and felt like I had nothing to show for it.  And then the worst thoughts crept into my mind, what would everyone think of me?  Would they see me as careless, less valid or worse, lose interest entirely?

This then brings me to what had been the title of the show, “What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business!”  HA!  Clearly my new frame of mind was not channeling anything I just spoke about that last hour.  I acknowledged this, decided I was okay with that and let myself be upset for the day.  I knew I would laugh at all of this eventually; I just definitely wasn’t there yet.  In the meantime, I was dramatic and fermented over my “misfortune”.

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After my one day grace period, I re-visited my material and realized that these so called “mistakes” are what shape my practice and my ability to help other people.  These experiential moments of life are what make me relatable and able to have the advantage of knowing exactly what you are going through.  It reminded me that I too go through my own challenges and my efforts to move through it are where I find the resources to give you the inner strength to improve in your own life.

Moral of the story?  I too need to practice BEFORE I can advise others of what I preach!

I’ll be doing a second take of the subject matter for my next radio show on Tuesday, August 6th at 8p.m. EST.  I’m really thrilled to share the new insights I’ve gained and how I didn’t let what I felt to be the assumptions of others from my mishap get to me.  No matter what circumstances or difficulties you may be going through, there is a way to channel out the negative thoughts that are evoked from the outside world.  I’ll discuss the ways you can do this to start seeing results as soon as the next morning!

The universe pulled a fast one on me and now I can see why.  I understand why it needed to happen and I can also laugh at what I had thought to be such a catastrophe at the time.

And you can be sure that you’ll hear me LOUD & CLEAR on the next episode of ‘New You City Chat!’ Click the link below to set a reminder for the show!

New You City Radio Chat – What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!

Ever have your own instance where you completely goofed but can laugh it off now?  Share in the comments below and let me know how you dealt with it! 

Revealed: How Other People’s Thoughts Hold You Back!

Hope you have been enjoying your summer!  If you’re in the city like me, how crazy has this heat been??  As much as I love a good sweat in the sun, I’ve been showing up to most gatherings looking more “ewwy” than delightfully dewy…

Some people may scoff silently in their minds at my disheveled appearance or massive pit stains (hey, it happens to the best of us!).  They may even derive a sense of pleasure at how much better they may look in these situations.  And while it took me a loooonngggg time to get here, I can honestly say “I REALLY DON’T CARE!”

How is that even possible, you ask?  For me, it came to a point where I was just simply burnt out.  I was constantly concerned about being judged and I tried to carefully calculate my moves so that they would please other people.  I was always agonizing over what I should wear, if people noticed I gained five pounds, or why I was stuck in a career that had nothing to do with my major.  As I continued on this lifestyle, the unhappier I got.  So once I finally learned how to remove myself from that world of worry, I realized that I’m the one who gets to make the decisions and that really, what other people thought of me was none of my business!

Have you ever felt like the whole world was looking right at YOU, noticing all your flaws?  Or do you ever let the opinions of others overwhelm you into making a decision that just didn’t feel right?

If so, this week’s New You City Radio Chat is for you!

We’ll discuss why the opinions of others matter so much and how it’s okay to be selfish sometimes!  I’ll even open up the phone lines for your questions or comments!  Just call in to 646-716-9397.

The live show starts at 8:00p.m. EST on Tuesday, August 6th.  Simply follow the link below and listen from your smart phone or computer.

New You City Radio Chat – What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!

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After the show, I’d love to know what you think as well as what your best tactic is for staying focused on YOU!  Post your comment below!

Also, if you can’t make the live show, you can also catch any of my past recordings on iTunes!  Just search via the Life Coach Radio Network.