How Not to Run from Love during Venus Retrograde!

Every day the planets move through the universe, making strides forward and radiating their “essence”. Every planet has a role to play, for example Mars controls our physical actions and Jupiter oversees expansion. The collective energies of the planets work to keep our lives flowing and in order. And just like us, the planets need a little rejuvenation and reassessment too. That’s where retrograde comes in. Most of us shudder at the word, given it’s bad rap from recent Mercury go-arounds, however retrograde doesn’t have to be a negative occurrence and can actually be momentous to our self healing and growth.

On July 25th Venus, the planet of love and passion, will go retrograde until September 6, 2015. If you’re thinking your love life will be doomed during this time, think again! Venus retrograde is an amazing opportunity to mend our hearts and reconnect us to what we truly desire.

Venus doesn’t retrograde very often (roughly every 20 months), however its absolutely fitting that it falls right after the New Moon in Cancer on July 15th. The moon had signified for many a fresh start. Leaving behind what could no longer be carried into the rest of 2015 and while painful for some, knowing it was for the best. Many people left relationships, experienced loss or sought out recovery to deep addictions. The Venus retrograde (starting off in the practical and grounding sign of Virgo before moving back into Leo July 31st) will aid in allowing us to nurture our hearts and maintain that steady motion ahead.

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How can you best maximize the effects of Venus’s retrograde? Below are my top tips for becoming a galactic all-star throughout this phase!

Plan More Downtime

You may be feeling more sensitive during this transit and as such you want to give yourself the space to move through it, as oppose to overloading your schedule and getting frazzled. Create more time for meditation and go to yoga classes. Treat yourself to a massage or mani/pedi. The vibes are all about self care and it’s important to extend love to the beautiful vessel aka your body, that carries your sweet heart.

Find Out what Makes your Heart Sing!

View Venus Retrograde as a call to action! What is it that truly makes your heart beat faster with joy? How is your life currently aligned with your passions? Venus will move back into the sign of Leo at the end of July, asking you to take inventory of your passion projects. If you find that your life isn’t reflecting all it could, it’s time to bring those hidden talents out from under the rug and brush off the dust! Reconnecting with the hobbies you enjoy will make this retrograde a more enjoyable experience and possibly bring about new opportunities once the transit fades out in September.

Redefine your Standards

Whether in a relationship or single, this is a gorgeous time to take a serious look at your standards when it comes to love. How is love aligned in your life currently? Do you view it as expansive and exciting or is it hopeless and settling? Again, this is a time for what it is that YOU want. What does love look like in your life? Feel like? Sound like? Even taste and smell like? (hey now). Make a list of how love could be expressed more fully in your daily routine and then start implementing those items! When you start radiating out love on a regular basis, you’ll attract it right back! Also take a look at where you’ve been subconsciously singling out new love by staying attached to your independence or fixated on a certain way it’s suppose to go. Remember that love in it’s true essence is a feeling, not an object. When you allow yourself to flow in the stream of love, you’ll get back the feelings you desire first and the form will be an afterthought.

Stay Strong.

Our hearts may be more raw and vulnerable during this time, so we may seek comfort in a past relationship (i.e. respond to that late night ‘I miss you’ text from our ex). This is an opportunity to stand up for yourself and hold steady! Giving in to an old hurt will just extend out more confusion and slow down the healing process. Venus retrograde is like an accelerate to releasing our heart’s pains so remain true and take advantage of it’s extra nurturing vibes. Honor the initial decisions you made and sooner rather than later opportunities that are much more true and satisfying will be presented to you!

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How do you plan to rock out this retrograde? Any fears? Share with me in the comments below! xo

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Why Mercury Retrograde makes me giddy!

Perhaps I’m bias because my last name is ruled by the planet Mercury. Or maybe it’s just the fact that I consider myself to be a Mercurial girl by nature, however I’m growing to LOVE Mercury in Retrograde.

You may be thinking, “Dear Lord, she’s officially lost it. She’s gotten so swept up in the cosmos that she’s completely out of sync with the real world!” And in some ways, yes that’s true. Though on a grander scale, it’s merely the opposite. All planetary shifts occur to create a sense of order in what we consider to be our reality. So when the planet Mercury starts to go “backwards”, it’s not really trying to create waves of chaos or destroy your microwave! It simply wants you to slow down and look at things in a new way.

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Mercury is the planet of communication, messages and technology. The energy it radiates is so powerful that we feel it on our earth plane. Typically, it functions to help manage how you correspond with the outside world. Every 3-4 months though, it needs a break. To stop dealing with what’s going on outside of you and bring more of your awareness within.

And quite frankly, that kind of self-reflection can scare the shit out of people.

So a giant stigma around this trend was created. Instead of acknowledging this as a time to redirect us to some much needed self-love, it’s feared as the time when the world crashes around us. Here’s the thing, as my dear friend Ruby coins it best, “The Universe is your homeboy. It loves YOU!” And in that love there is a plan and much going on behind the scenes that you may not even be able to comprehend right now. As such, it’s a period to step out of your way of “I know best” thinking and possibly explore what can be refined. It’s an opportunity to lighten up your schedule and workload so you can find new ways to be MORE productive going forward. And if you ignore this opening as directed and book yourself full or spend too much time trying to fix everyone else, then things are going to backfire.

For example, you have a to-do list that is completely swapped. And then your car breaks down on the way to a new client (that you don’t really have the time to take on but worried you need the money). And your cell phone battery dies when you try call for help. Yes, that all totally sucks and you can thank the Mercury Retrograde for those happenings. They could have been prevented however if you had just cleared more time on your schedule to focus on finishing lingering tasks and then spent the remaining time reorganizing your closet or taking a bath. All of which turned out to be way more cost-efficient than the first scenario. You following? Again, this turnaround phase isn’t looking to give you more challenges, however push you into more productive habits and take better care of yourself! If you fight it, it’ll fight you right back my dear. If you embrace it, you’ll find yourself in a space of feeling super charged and rejuvenated!

My motto during this time is to “RISE ABOVE” the retrograde! And do so with a smile please. For far too many people misunderstand or do not know at all the true intent of Mercury’s reversal behavior and for that you need to smile and stay positive. We must carry the space so that we can use this time efficiently and be open to the mishaps along the way.

Trust me, I’ve already had a few blunders during this round and it was completely annoying. And instead of getting mad or ignoring the whole thing. I dealt with the situation and realized it showed up to lead me in another direction. One that actually feels more open and productive. So how about that!

So remember, Mercury Retrograde isn’t something that happens TO you, it’s actually a gift the universe is providing FOR you, if you can just recognize what you’re truly gaining by going within.  How will you rise above? How can you use this as a time to be more productive and enhance your way of living? I’d love to know! Share your favorite ways to work with the backward energy that actually move you forward!