Breaking the Vicious Cycle of Judgments!

It’s time to unleash the second video of my Q&A series!  This one focuses on how to prevent our own judgments from interfering with our everyday lives.  It’s so easy to want to compare ourselves to others, in fact our ego encourages it!  So how do you stop this flow of negativity from coming into your daily routine?  Watch the video for my insight as to how!

Remember that we can’t control other people’s thoughts, however you author your own story!  Yes, this does take a lot of awareness, practice and patience!  Know that you can create a change, so keep at it!  You’ll be closer along your path to letting your true, beautiful, hot self shine through!

Be sure to also tune into my next radio show, Tuesday, August 20th at 8p.m. EST! We’ll discuss how visualization and affirmations can help you achieve your DREAM city life! Is your life not panning out the way you’d thought? Are you ready to attract more love, money or even a hotter body? Learn the ways to manifest positivity and results through simple thoughts and techniques. You’ll start to see how to make the city work with you as oppose to against you, even faster than you can catch the subway!

Have a question you’d like answered on the show? Let us know! Email the specifics at danielle@daniellemercurio.com or post your comment below.

Set a reminder and follow the link below during show time!
New You City Radio Chat – How to Manifest Your DREAM Life!

Until next time, keep dreaming & stay open to the possibilities! -Danielle

Is it possible to NOT worry about what other people think without looking selfish?

My most recent radio show embraced the topic ‘What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business’. Clearly, there is much to discuss when it comes to wondering about what other opinions are going on about you!

We tend to bring our focus so heavily on what other people think of us, that it’s driving us away from our own wants, desires and establishing our true purpose in life. We start to worry about pleasing them as oppose to ourselves!

Have you ever felt at times like all eyes are on you? Like everyone is just waiting for you to fail or disappoint?

What happens is that this creates a unique sense of fear and our mind in turn starts to play tricks on us. Instead of thinking about what we WANT to do, we concentrate on what we SHOULD do. And we’re “shoulding” ourselves all over the place!

Follow this link to my radio recording and learn more about how to STOP the opinions from consuming your mind, as well as discover the personal blocks you may be holding onto that are fueling the beliefs that other people are judging you!

New You City Radio Chat – What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!

Before the show, I had invited listeners to write in their personal questions to be answered on air. Unfortunately, we just couldn’t get to it all in one hour! So to make sure no one was left unanswered, I’m answering your questions via video response! I’m releasing three videos that contain my insight per your requests! Here’s my first titled, “Am I just being selfish? Truth vs True.”

After you watch the video, let me know what you do to stay connected to your Truth via the comments below!

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Practice BEFORE You Preach! How to Bounce Back After a Setback.

With my radio show on the Life Coach Radio Network now in full swing every 1st and 3rd Tuesday evening of the month (insert non-shameless plug), I was feeling on top of my game.  The buzz surrounding my coaching business was growing and I was ecstatic.  I felt like nothing could bring me down.

Backtrack to last Tuesday evening, when it was time to start my live taping of the next radio show.  It went great; I was feeling confident, having fun and really feeling like I was getting the hang of it.  Sure, no one was calling in and the chat room seemed desolate, but I wasn’t going to let that get to my head.  I wrapped up at the end of the hour and went to shut down the online recording studio.  That’s when I saw the mute button in all its bright red glory and the color drained from my face.

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This couldn’t be happening, I thought.  Not ME.  I reached out to some of my listeners that confirmed what I already knew to be true.  The whole hour was one long dead silence.  I was disappointed, embarrassed and heartbroken.  I had put so much time and energy into the show and felt like I had nothing to show for it.  And then the worst thoughts crept into my mind, what would everyone think of me?  Would they see me as careless, less valid or worse, lose interest entirely?

This then brings me to what had been the title of the show, “What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business!”  HA!  Clearly my new frame of mind was not channeling anything I just spoke about that last hour.  I acknowledged this, decided I was okay with that and let myself be upset for the day.  I knew I would laugh at all of this eventually; I just definitely wasn’t there yet.  In the meantime, I was dramatic and fermented over my “misfortune”.

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After my one day grace period, I re-visited my material and realized that these so called “mistakes” are what shape my practice and my ability to help other people.  These experiential moments of life are what make me relatable and able to have the advantage of knowing exactly what you are going through.  It reminded me that I too go through my own challenges and my efforts to move through it are where I find the resources to give you the inner strength to improve in your own life.

Moral of the story?  I too need to practice BEFORE I can advise others of what I preach!

I’ll be doing a second take of the subject matter for my next radio show on Tuesday, August 6th at 8p.m. EST.  I’m really thrilled to share the new insights I’ve gained and how I didn’t let what I felt to be the assumptions of others from my mishap get to me.  No matter what circumstances or difficulties you may be going through, there is a way to channel out the negative thoughts that are evoked from the outside world.  I’ll discuss the ways you can do this to start seeing results as soon as the next morning!

The universe pulled a fast one on me and now I can see why.  I understand why it needed to happen and I can also laugh at what I had thought to be such a catastrophe at the time.

And you can be sure that you’ll hear me LOUD & CLEAR on the next episode of ‘New You City Chat!’ Click the link below to set a reminder for the show!

New You City Radio Chat – What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!

Ever have your own instance where you completely goofed but can laugh it off now?  Share in the comments below and let me know how you dealt with it! 

Revealed: How Other People’s Thoughts Hold You Back!

Hope you have been enjoying your summer!  If you’re in the city like me, how crazy has this heat been??  As much as I love a good sweat in the sun, I’ve been showing up to most gatherings looking more “ewwy” than delightfully dewy…

Some people may scoff silently in their minds at my disheveled appearance or massive pit stains (hey, it happens to the best of us!).  They may even derive a sense of pleasure at how much better they may look in these situations.  And while it took me a loooonngggg time to get here, I can honestly say “I REALLY DON’T CARE!”

How is that even possible, you ask?  For me, it came to a point where I was just simply burnt out.  I was constantly concerned about being judged and I tried to carefully calculate my moves so that they would please other people.  I was always agonizing over what I should wear, if people noticed I gained five pounds, or why I was stuck in a career that had nothing to do with my major.  As I continued on this lifestyle, the unhappier I got.  So once I finally learned how to remove myself from that world of worry, I realized that I’m the one who gets to make the decisions and that really, what other people thought of me was none of my business!

Have you ever felt like the whole world was looking right at YOU, noticing all your flaws?  Or do you ever let the opinions of others overwhelm you into making a decision that just didn’t feel right?

If so, this week’s New You City Radio Chat is for you!

We’ll discuss why the opinions of others matter so much and how it’s okay to be selfish sometimes!  I’ll even open up the phone lines for your questions or comments!  Just call in to 646-716-9397.

The live show starts at 8:00p.m. EST on Tuesday, August 6th.  Simply follow the link below and listen from your smart phone or computer.

New You City Radio Chat – What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your Business!

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After the show, I’d love to know what you think as well as what your best tactic is for staying focused on YOU!  Post your comment below!

Also, if you can’t make the live show, you can also catch any of my past recordings on iTunes!  Just search via the Life Coach Radio Network.

Is Your Co-Worker Really A Vampire? How YOU can protect yourself & others!

Last week I had an amazing time hosting the premiere episode of the “New You City Chat” radio show on the Featured Life Coach Radio Network!  It’s a show I host the first and third Tuesday of every month at 8:00p.m. EST.  It’s my opportunity to essentially talk about whatever it is hot on my mind!  Much of the focus is on centering yourself in an overwhelming city environment, building confidence and creating the look and feel of the hot body you desire!
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We kicked off the show with the topic of positive energy and how you can raise the levels in your life to feel invigorated and motivated to accomplish your goals!

How typical is a Monday morning involving your snooze alarm?  There’s an epidemic that has been created by this magical button that gives us the gift of another 5 or 10 minutes to put off the rest of the day a little bit longer.  So my question is WHY?  Why aren’t we leaping out of bed in the morning? Why are we putting off going to the gym in lieu of more sleep?  Where is this drainage coming from?

A big part of it is the people and surroundings that we interact with on a daily basis.  It is unconsciously draining you of your internal resources!  The widespread community of people are also known as ENERGY VAMPIRES!  These aren’t the sexy Eric Northman types from True Blood, they are the people around you that are literally sucking you dry.  We all know the type; it’s the person that wears you down and no one else wants to be around.  You’re probably thinking in your head “must escape” as soon as they come your way!  It also thrives on the atmosphere we are in, such as a noisy city with lights and sirens or a crowded mall with angry customers and long lines.

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Is the solution to slay everything in your path a la Buffy?  Not necessarily… There are other ways to spot the energy vampires in your life and defend yourself from being completely depleted of your vitality!  Read on.

Step One: Self Care.  Any good soldier knows that in order to prepare for battle, they must train first.  Same goes for you.  When we aren’t at our best mentally and physically, we are already more vulnerable right from the start.  Be sure to get enough sleep, exercise, and nutrient rich foods, as well as cut back your hours at work.  Remember you are your own best ally and should be treated with respect.

Step Two:  Establish Boundaries.  Find your baseline and break the cycle!  Vampires do not understand the limits of overstepping; therefore you have to set the tone for you both.  Think about the ways you can reduce contact and shield your energy.  Be vocal if need be.  The more you practice and develop your own personal space, the stronger you will become and the energy vampires will be less attracted to you.

Step Three:  Be Empathetic.  To a point that is.  Try to cut the other person some slack and maybe see it from their point of view.  Sometimes we make assumptions about a situation without really researching if it’s true or not.  The thing is, you may never really find out; and as such shouldn’t draw conclusions on just a possibility.  Alternatively, send that other person some love and be on your way.  In turn you will make that person feel better and it also keeps you in a healthy state.

For even more about the types of energy vampires and how you can boost your liveliness to start off the day right, listen to my show on demand now at Blog Talk Radio!  Just click the link below and you are on your way!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lifecoachradionetwork/2013/07/03/new-you-city-coach-chat-wdanielle-mercurio

Did you try out one of the methods discussed or have your own tactics for dealing with negative energy?  Comment below and share your thoughts!

Talk to you soon on my next show this Tuesday, July 16th at 8:00p.m. EST!  To set a reminder, click here!

Are You Living Up To Your Potential?

Are You Living Up To Your Potential?

This past weekend I had the opportunity to lead the Life Coach Chat on Blogtalkradio.  I had a BLAST!  The emphasis was on what potential and purpose really mean.  As a society I often find that we set ourselves up for failure.  We have these ideas of what our potential or purpose in life should be.  But something doesn’t quite feel right.  We tend to put pressure on trying to figure out what it is quickly and then judge ourselves relentlessly to see if we are measuring up to where we need to be or not.

So then the question is, “Where does this need come from and is it really important?”

Our society has created this “timeline” that has been implemented in our minds since birth.  We all know the drill; do well in school, get a good job, buy a nice home, get married, have kids, save for retirement, etc… It’s the all American dream so to speak.  But what if we don’t fall neatly into that structure?  Does that mean something is wrong with us?  Do we then continue to push ourselves into something that isn’t working?

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As you can see, the cycle can be endless!  For more insight and strategies on the subject matter, you can follow the link below to the recording of our show.  Myself, Joanna Swift and David Diamond passionately discuss the topic and give you the resources you need to reset your path and lead into your purpose.

Click here and scroll to the radio show released June 15, 2013

When you are finished listening, come back to my blog and leave a comment about a quote you loved or a thought you’ll take with you going forward!

Life Coach Radio Network!

Hello New You City Readers!

I wanted to announce some exciting news in that I will now be heard through the radio airwaves!  I recently join the team of 25 talented coaches from across the globe at the Coach Host Radio Network.  Shows are held daily either by a solo coach or in group format.  The topics range from free coaching, relationships, career, body image and so much more!!

I made my radio debut this past weekend during the ‘Life Coach Chat’ hour.  Myself and two other coaches spent the hour demonstrating what life coaching is really all about and explained some of the techniques and resources we used.  You can listen to the live recording via the link below.  It gives great insight as to how coaching can benefit you.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lifecoachradionetwork/2013/06/01/life-coach-chat-

Please note that ALL the coaching scenarios given were completely candid and the coaches were not prepped on the subject matter prior!  What you are witnessing is real in the moment coaching!

I will be doing another Life Coach Chat on Saturday, June 15th and I’ll be sure to post the additional details as they come available.  Then starting in July, it’s time for my own solo show!  We’ll be discussing topics surrounding finding city life balance amidst the chaos and learning the ways to naturally fall into your hottest most confident self!

Please COMMENT in the section below and let me know any topics that you would like discussed or featured on one of our upcoming shows!

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