From Working Corporate to my own Light business!

Six months ago I went from working for someone else, to the ultimate someONE. My new CEO? Why that of the divine source, working in sync with me and what I was ready to offer!

Since the Fall of 2011, I was ready for more. I had fell to my knees two years prior, realizing I had no sense of who I was and spiraling quickly down a rabbit hole. After getting help, I received a more clear understanding of my purpose to guide people so they can feel more satisfied and present in the moment. And now it was time to implement. I received training at the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), met individuals with the same passion and desire to help, and enrolled in Marie Forleo’s B-school to beef up my business savvy ways. During this time I was living in Philadelphia, working as an administrative assistant for a law firm. I knew the role had a shelf life and I was setting myself up for the expiration date.

Then the day came when the firm announced the office was closing and I was offered a transfer to NYC. I was just finalizing my coaching practice and unclear if it was a sign I was ready to go on my own in Philly or take the leap to the world’s biggest metropolis.

I was single and open, so I jumped into a new chapter in NYC. And with that it meant 12 hour days and working weekends as the firm caught up from the move. I was living out of suitcases and cardboard boxes the first 2 months until my parents intervened and helped me unpack.  Some mornings I’d cry when the moment came that I couldn’t hit the snooze again. I’d dread the subway rides where I was pushed and crammed in with other people just as miserable.  People outside the city would comment how exciting it must be and it broke my heart. The first year in the city was a long one and with the hours I was working I saw my coaching dreams slip further and further away.

I knew I had to make a change. I wasn’t experiencing the city or my life for that matter in a way that felt fulfilling. And I couldn’t let go of my coaching dreams. It haunted me regularly. The very fact that I hadn’t moved on from the idea added to it’s value.  So I put in my notice at the law firm and in August of 2013, at the onset of my 30th birthday, I “escaped”.

At that point in time, freedom was not having to go into an office anymore or miss out on events because I was working late. It  now meant having time to develop my business, get speaking gigs, and start working with clients.

Except none of that ever happened. As much as I promoted and hoped, no one wanted to make the investment to work with me or come to my events. Living in midtown Manhattan, my financial resources were burning up quickly and my fear was going into hyperdrive. I tried to keep it all together on the outside but inside I was freaking out.

My life was becoming unmanageable. I had hit rock bottom, yet again.

And just like the last time, with embarrassment and confusion, I needed help. And so three months after my 30th birthday, I found myself back in a cubicle again. Back to the pain at the sound of my alarm and the sadness that washed over me squeezing into the subway car every morning.  For awhile, I resisted hardcore. While I didn’t let my work performance suffer, I resented the new company I was working as an assistant for. I got upset when they made extra demands or an entrepreneurial event came up that I couldn’t go to because of them.

Once again, the same story unfolded and I was miserable and doubting my purpose. I didn’t understand why I was brought to NYC if I was going to struggle and I hated that it felt like I was just coasting through my life. I was constantly reaching my breaking point until one day I decided to surrender.

It was the moment of surrender that brought me to my horoscope that read I should take a Kundalini Yoga class. So I did.

And I fell in love with the practice. They said to keep coming back. And so I did.

Kundalini Yoga taught me to learn to work with the resistance I was feeling, not against it. It allowed me to see my challenges not as set backs but set forths into new ways of doing things. It allowed me to see how I was holding myself back in my resentment and tamper tantrums of not getting my way and instead realize it wasn’t all about me. It was about something far greater, if I could just get myself into a space of trust and patience to receive it.

I was guided to Gabby Bernstein‘s work and enrolled in her Masterclass soon after. I was placed in a community of light workers where we could simply believe and inspire each other. I felt encouraged to explore my other gifts outside of coaching such as Astrology and Tarot. I felt that maybe there was hope for me after all.

So what happened next?  I left my Corporate job in the Spring of 2015 and haven’t looked back since! Here are the top tips I learned to eventually transfer out of my 9-5 and into my light full time!

  1. Your current job is a spiritual experience. When I first started my work with Gabby, I would complain that I was ready to start coaching full time now. Surely, she could understand the passion and desire I felt!  Quite the contrary. She put me in my place and advised that I wasn’t ready. The desire to leave wasn’t enough. Not only did a need a more clear plan in place, I also needed to learn to appreciate the place that was supporting me. She reminded me that I had a responsibility not only to myself but those I’d come to serve one day. I needed to utilize my current job to afford me the opportunities to advance to the next level, such as continuing her Masterclass and receiving my Kundalini Teacher Training. And therefore, I needed to have respect for where I was clocking in. Utilize your current role to give you the benefits you need to build your business in a space of feeling secure. When you try to create a business in lack, you are projecting misguided feelings and agendas. Also set clear boundaries with your place of employment. For me, I was very direct that I would need to leave at 5pm every day. If you are finding that your job is not in alignment with your boundaries, perhaps you need a different job to support you as your make your transition.
  2. Do honor ALL of your talents and gifts. When I first started my business, I was stuck on only life coaching. I was ignoring my passion for Astrology and other spiritual methods. It wasn’t until I decided to share my knowledge of the cosmos that things started to shift. By fully expressing what I had to offer, everything started to blend together and I attracted clients that had been looking for me! By worrying about seeming too “woo woo” I was ignoring the ones that would love it. I now have a range of clients from coaching, astrology, meditation and more. Look at it like a restaurant. If you were only serving one item, you’d bring in some people however limiting those with different cravings. If you expand your menu, you’ll give potential clients more tasty options!
  3. If it’s not a connection, it’s a distraction. When you are transitioning into your own business, there isn’t a ton of time for much else. Choose your activities and free time wisely. Is what you’re engaging in inspiring you further or holding you back? For me, that was dating. I was getting too caught up in going out with guys that didn’t hold the higher vision of my future with me. I realized that unless it was a real supportive connection, it was just a distraction. That is not to say that you can’t have fun and let loose while building a business! However you want to notice when the good times are outweighing the rest and how that may impact your momentum.
  4. Find people that will hold space during your move toward Freedom. Surround yourself with people that will support your new venture. We have a habit of trying to prove or going to people for help that may not understand what’s happening. Being in an atmosphere where you can vent throughout while still staying empowered is so important. Look for people that won’t coddle you but motivate you to stay with it. A business coach/mentor or mastermind community can be wonderful for this!

You have a desire to help people and lead a more fulfilling life. You wouldn’t have made it to the end of this blog otherwise. And you can. It just takes a lot of trust, patience, and a knowing that your mission and purpose is worth waiting for. The more consistently you show up for it every day, the faster it will come to you and the easier it gets.

If you want to discuss further, I’m here for you! Whether it’s clarity around developing your niche and next steps, how to connect with your audience, building confidence or just someone that can relate, I’m here for you! Set up a 20 minute consult here to talk about it!

I can’t do this on my own. Neither can your peers. We need YOU and the unique light you have to bring to the world. Please help yourself and help us in turn. You got this and we’re here for you too!

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How Not to Run from Love during Venus Retrograde!

Every day the planets move through the universe, making strides forward and radiating their “essence”. Every planet has a role to play, for example Mars controls our physical actions and Jupiter oversees expansion. The collective energies of the planets work to keep our lives flowing and in order. And just like us, the planets need a little rejuvenation and reassessment too. That’s where retrograde comes in. Most of us shudder at the word, given it’s bad rap from recent Mercury go-arounds, however retrograde doesn’t have to be a negative occurrence and can actually be momentous to our self healing and growth.

On July 25th Venus, the planet of love and passion, will go retrograde until September 6, 2015. If you’re thinking your love life will be doomed during this time, think again! Venus retrograde is an amazing opportunity to mend our hearts and reconnect us to what we truly desire.

Venus doesn’t retrograde very often (roughly every 20 months), however its absolutely fitting that it falls right after the New Moon in Cancer on July 15th. The moon had signified for many a fresh start. Leaving behind what could no longer be carried into the rest of 2015 and while painful for some, knowing it was for the best. Many people left relationships, experienced loss or sought out recovery to deep addictions. The Venus retrograde (starting off in the practical and grounding sign of Virgo before moving back into Leo July 31st) will aid in allowing us to nurture our hearts and maintain that steady motion ahead.

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How can you best maximize the effects of Venus’s retrograde? Below are my top tips for becoming a galactic all-star throughout this phase!

Plan More Downtime

You may be feeling more sensitive during this transit and as such you want to give yourself the space to move through it, as oppose to overloading your schedule and getting frazzled. Create more time for meditation and go to yoga classes. Treat yourself to a massage or mani/pedi. The vibes are all about self care and it’s important to extend love to the beautiful vessel aka your body, that carries your sweet heart.

Find Out what Makes your Heart Sing!

View Venus Retrograde as a call to action! What is it that truly makes your heart beat faster with joy? How is your life currently aligned with your passions? Venus will move back into the sign of Leo at the end of July, asking you to take inventory of your passion projects. If you find that your life isn’t reflecting all it could, it’s time to bring those hidden talents out from under the rug and brush off the dust! Reconnecting with the hobbies you enjoy will make this retrograde a more enjoyable experience and possibly bring about new opportunities once the transit fades out in September.

Redefine your Standards

Whether in a relationship or single, this is a gorgeous time to take a serious look at your standards when it comes to love. How is love aligned in your life currently? Do you view it as expansive and exciting or is it hopeless and settling? Again, this is a time for what it is that YOU want. What does love look like in your life? Feel like? Sound like? Even taste and smell like? (hey now). Make a list of how love could be expressed more fully in your daily routine and then start implementing those items! When you start radiating out love on a regular basis, you’ll attract it right back! Also take a look at where you’ve been subconsciously singling out new love by staying attached to your independence or fixated on a certain way it’s suppose to go. Remember that love in it’s true essence is a feeling, not an object. When you allow yourself to flow in the stream of love, you’ll get back the feelings you desire first and the form will be an afterthought.

Stay Strong.

Our hearts may be more raw and vulnerable during this time, so we may seek comfort in a past relationship (i.e. respond to that late night ‘I miss you’ text from our ex). This is an opportunity to stand up for yourself and hold steady! Giving in to an old hurt will just extend out more confusion and slow down the healing process. Venus retrograde is like an accelerate to releasing our heart’s pains so remain true and take advantage of it’s extra nurturing vibes. Honor the initial decisions you made and sooner rather than later opportunities that are much more true and satisfying will be presented to you!

To learn more about what’s up in the cosmos, subscribe to my YouTube channel for insights on what’s happening in Astrology, in real time. Watch my more recent video here (where I go deeper on the New Moon and Venus Retrograde):

How do you plan to rock out this retrograde? Any fears? Share with me in the comments below! xo

How I Successfully Willed Myself to Gain 20 Pounds in a Year

Today marks the one year anniversary of me trying something different. Of the turning point where I realized that certain relationships and situations had to go because they were ultimately distracting me from the big picture of where I wanted to be. A year ago I launched my first Astrology forecast video, setting the tone that I was serious about launching my dreams and bridging together a purpose and a passion. To celebrate, I’m holding a live call on July 9th at 8:30pm EST and you can sign up here. I would love to have you there as I share how I easily blend Astrology into my everyday life!

Up to this point however, there was always something nagging me. A nasty fear. It was the worry that I would gain weight and thus lose my credibility. It was that constant concern that actually willed me to manifest what I was so turned off by and in the span of 12 months, I managed to put 20 pounds onto my being.  As much as I hated it, there was a strange satisfaction from my ego, taunting me that everything I was building in my outside world could crumble if I don’t get this in check. And with every pound, it was confirming such.

It wasn’t until last week when the universe literally pushed me to my knees on my run, that I realized I needed to shift.

The weight gain was two fold really. At will, I’m an addict. When things are too good to be true or completely unknown, I reach. It use to be more brash substances such as alcohol or drugs however I’ve since learned to not to reach for those in desperate times. Instead, I went back to my old stomping grounds, food. The excitement of making my dreams a reality, of having people turn to me for guidance and being an expert in something was incredible. I didn’t know what to do with the rush of feelings so I grounded myself with food. Every single time. A successful event meant pizza to follow. A client makes a break through and I praise them afterward with ice cream. Instead of sitting with the glee, I had to transfer it to another source. My world was expanding, and apparently that applied to my waist line too!

There is also a pattern in our society, that when you’re thin you get attention. Either flattery or concern. When you’re overweight, everyone leaves you alone. After puberty, I was typically on the heavier side and was in a constant pursuit of body normalcy. However every time I lost pounds, I was hit back with waves of attention which I hated. People want to know how I did it or if I went overboard. I couldn’t never win. I just wanted to enjoy my healthy body and dress it up in fun new outfits. I didn’t like the new standard of approval I had to meet and would constantly fall back to my old ways. And as of recent, with launching a new business, I found comfort in the fact that I could hide behind the weight and no one would bring up my body or dissect it if I happen to lose more. It also kept me from other things that would distract me, like dating. I subconsciously created an armor to protect anything from getting in my way. Not stopping to realize that the more you close off, the more space you block from ultimately expanding in.

It is only fitting, a year later and steadily in the business I wanted (and truly am in love with), that this issue reach it’s peak. When I fell last week, scraping my hands and bruising my knees, it left me out of commission and I felt a whole new wave of appreciation for my body. It limited my ability to move freely and go about my day to day as I come to know. However that’s a freaking good thing. I needed a change up so I could see that this trending agony of weight gain could stop. And it’s more than the actual weight and image concerns, for me, it’s about going deeper. Of realizing I deserve this life I have created. I am worth it and have value to bring to others. And most importantly, I don’t have to ground my light. Those feel good vibes I get are gorgeous and meant to be contained, not weakened by an outer source. Today, I’m making the commitment to drop my armor. To embrace my life with love and reflect that back onto my body. To nurture the vessel that holds my beautiful soul. Today I know longer have to perfect anything. I can bask in the perfection that is the right now and the moments to follow will follow suit.

If you’re looking for ways to strengthen your relationship with food and your body, I encourage you to check out my friend and mentor Gabby Bernstein’s program Finally Full.

And here’s just a few more tips from me to you:

1. Full Acceptance. When I was building my business, there was a fear that maybe this wasn’t meant to be. That my dreams weren’t possible. And so the weight gain was my sneaky way of sabotage. However as much as I tried, my business still grew and I have a following of gorgeous people with the biggest hearts. I saw that they loved me for ME. Not for how my body looked. And honestly, I could be at any size and they would appreciate what I was offering them. And that is because I deliver from the heart. When I am with a client, a group or shooting a video, I am speaking from love and fully on your side. So if you are feeling a disconnect from your body, start to explore the value of what you offer the world. How are you a giver among family and friends? Take full acceptance of that role you hold and treasure it. Give it real worth. And understand that you are not defined by how you look but how your heart radiates and make others feel.

2. Come clean. I had to get real with myself and even vulnerable to shift this growing concern. It’s not easy when you are viewed as a expert in one area to have to admit defeat in another. However I knew that by vocalizing what’s going on (and not writing it off or cracking jokes like I usually do), I could get the encouragement and support I needed in a way to keep me going.

3. Balance. As with anything, moderation is so key. When I look back to my successful moments of a healthy lifestyle, it was filled with exercise I enjoyed, nourishing foods and fun moments with friends where we could explore good food together. It wasn’t the moments of binge eating in front of the TV or using adderall to keep my weight in check. It wasn’t being mean to myself or restricting my intake. Channel the fond memories of food, health and body movement and start to implement those back into your life. Make the joyous feelings of what a vivacious, satisfied body and life feel like the priority.

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Can you relate? Have you ever found yourself in one area of success and sabotaging another? What did you do? How are you still dealing with it now? Comment below as I’d love to hear from you! Let’s take off the armor and shine bright together!

Defeating the ‘Carrie Bradshaw’ Factor!

I’ve been based in NYC a while now and I think a lot about the ‘Carrie Bradshaw Factor’.

There is an increasing trend of individuals in the 23-34 age group (women especially), that are flocking to the city in hopes of the fantasy life of posh evenings out, gorgeous men and unique job opportunities.  Instead, they are finding themselves broke, single and feeling ‘stuck in the city’. I also had fallen into that trap and found myself unhappy, frustrated and overweight.  Given such, it’s important to find ways you can incorporate the city life you’re craving, without having to settle, feel added pressure or let down.  Follow these fast and simple tips to amplify your city chic experience!

Date a human, not a fantasy!

Let go of some of the high standards set for the perfect partner.  It’s a lot of pressure to put on the other person on a first date! This is the time to relax and have fun. Be open to the possibilities and remember that often times you don’t always know what’s best for you. You might be surprised and find more than what you thought you were looking for!  Or at best, make a great new friend.

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No one talks about all those late night liquid calories!

The more fun and colorful a cocktail, the more chance of racking up the pounds. Limit yourself to just one of these drinks when out on the town. Sip slowly and actually savor it. Switch to a cleaner drink, such as vodka club and alternate water in between cocktails. Also, remember why you are out! Develop a relationship with the friends you are with and potentially meeting new people, not a love affair with a daiquiri.

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Become a confident, fearless go getter!

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking people are watching your every move. Realize that what others think of you is none of your business. Follow your gut instinct and see it through. You have to live with your decisions and it allows you to develop a better relationship with yourself. You come across as more poised and self-reliant, which will attract more positive experiences and people into your world.

Have a tip for easily being fabulous in the city? I’d love to know! Share with a  comment below!

How to Stand Out in your New City!

It’s time for another episode of New You City Chat!  This week, I discuss the challenges you may encounter when relocating and what you can do to off set them.

Remember that the key to all of this is to be YOU.  Radiant your true self and the right people and places will come into your world naturally.  Feel really proud of what you’ve accomplished and how courageous you are to make such a big transition!

Have a moving tip or advice on how to make the most of a new city? Let me know and leave a comment!

Why now is NOT the best time to book your next guilt trip!

This week the concept of guilt has been on my mind.  It’s so interesting the tangled web we weave from a situation where guilt has affected us in some way.  It drives us mad; with its projections of self-doubt, regret, shame, and disappointment just to name a few.

Does this ever happen to you?  Do you find yourself going crazy reliving a situation in your head, hoping it had gone differently?  Do you feel like you ruined your reputation from a mistake you’ve made?

I know how easy it is to get caught in this trap and that’s why this week’s episode of “New You City Chat” is an expose on guilt!  I discuss what guilt is, how it affects us, and what you can do about it going forward.

 

Remember that guilt is just an aspect of our lives, not a reflection of it.  Things happen, however with a sense of forgiveness and selflessness, we can move ahead.

When was the last time you were guilt stricken?  Leave me a comment below and let me know what you did to overcome it.  I can’t wait to see your insight!

Breaking the Vicious Cycle of Judgments!

It’s time to unleash the second video of my Q&A series!  This one focuses on how to prevent our own judgments from interfering with our everyday lives.  It’s so easy to want to compare ourselves to others, in fact our ego encourages it!  So how do you stop this flow of negativity from coming into your daily routine?  Watch the video for my insight as to how!

Remember that we can’t control other people’s thoughts, however you author your own story!  Yes, this does take a lot of awareness, practice and patience!  Know that you can create a change, so keep at it!  You’ll be closer along your path to letting your true, beautiful, hot self shine through!

Be sure to also tune into my next radio show, Tuesday, August 20th at 8p.m. EST! We’ll discuss how visualization and affirmations can help you achieve your DREAM city life! Is your life not panning out the way you’d thought? Are you ready to attract more love, money or even a hotter body? Learn the ways to manifest positivity and results through simple thoughts and techniques. You’ll start to see how to make the city work with you as oppose to against you, even faster than you can catch the subway!

Have a question you’d like answered on the show? Let us know! Email the specifics at danielle@daniellemercurio.com or post your comment below.

Set a reminder and follow the link below during show time!
New You City Radio Chat – How to Manifest Your DREAM Life!

Until next time, keep dreaming & stay open to the possibilities! -Danielle